Whenever we see a long time couple, we tend to assume that they will be together until the end. Well, why not? They share the same interests, they already get used to each other’s strengths and weaknesses, they’ve already conquered a lot of challenges together.
The only thing that MIGHT break that relationship could be a third party or if they will suddenly fall out of love. Well, we shouldn’t have assumed that they will be together until the end just because they’ve been together for a long time in the first place. Even married people still separate ways sometimes. That’s a clear proof that life is unpredictable and anything can happen even in the most unexpected time and place and to whoever we didn’t expect.
Each couple has its own difference from the others. The way their relationship works may not be the same way for others to work. However, whatever it is that keeps the relationship going, should always be observed and talked about by the couple.
Even the strongest relationship can possibly reach the end if there are misunderstandings but you keep on ignoring it. Now, if you knew or you have that ALMOST perfect relationship yet, you ended up breaking up, These might be some of the reasons:
1. ONE OF YOU FELL OUT OF LOVE
– This might be the scariest moment in a relationship but it can still be worked out. For sure, there’s a reason for a sudden lost of love. It might be lack of time or effort. It was indeed important to spend quality time with your partner. Make sure as well that both of you are enjoying that quality time. So yeah, before it happens, WORK IT OUT!
2. THERE’S A CERTAIN NEED THAT THE OTHER DOESN’T MEET
– I once saw a couple who tackles about the different needs in a relationship. It was a series of talks and discussion why some couples split up after more than ten years of being together or one of them would have an affair. That’s why communication is really important because it is where both of you have the chance to talk about everything and realize what you should stop and keep on doing. Your partner’s needs might be the same but usually different from yours and you have to know it yourself too! If you know your needs, you can avoid finding it to another person that may lead to an affair and vice versa. In that case, both of you should understand that even if you don’t like doing a certain routine or act but if it suffice your partner’s need then, you should start liking it.
3. NO ONE’S WILLING TO LISTEN AND GIVE WAY ANYMORE
– Being able to give and take in a relationship is essential. It’s a sign that respect and understanding are continuously flowing on both ends. In case you’ve reached this point, it’s no longer a question why did you break up. However, you can avoid this by giving each other some space and ample time to get back on track and you will surely be able to find a way to listen to your partner again. Remember, it’s hard to listen when both of you are screaming 🙂
4. ONE OF YOU IS TOO COMFORTABLE WHILE THE OTHER NEEDS AN OOMPH IN THE RELATIONSHIP
– It’s quite given that once you reached three years or more, you tend to be too comfortable with your partner to the point that you’ve done almost everything together and you feel so stable. At this point, you feel secured and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, make sure that you both agree on it in every angle. Especially with the girls, they can be really understanding but they also have that need to still feel special from time to time and sometimes vice versa. So, to avoid your partner from looking for excitement with another person, try to listen to his/her needs and if you’re on the other side, try to be more patient and understanding to your partner who feels secured with you since quality time for him/her is simply sitting beside you. Give and take is the key!
5. YOU REALIZED THAT YOU STILL NEED TO GROW AS AN INDIVIDUAL
– Commonly, we give subtle interpretations in every break up and the first guess is usually a “third-party”. Nowadays, the most common reason for break up is simply “career over relationship” or individual hang ups that need to be fixed. Being in a long term relationship means you were at least more mature than your teenage years and for sure, you’ve already thought of bringing that relationship to the next level, which is marriage. Of course, if we knew an almost perfect couple, the first thing in our mind is that “they will be married for sure” and that is a huge misconception. It will still depend on the couple and their individual interests. If they decided to separate ways before “an almost marrying stage”, there’s a big possibility that this is the reason for they want to completely polish everything on their own lives before going to another chapter. In this case, there’s also a big possibility that they can still be together once they figured out everything for themselves. Yay! there’s still hope <3
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