Most of us are hoping for a happy and healthy relationship. That feeling of comfort when you were with the one you love is just priceless. Your differences that were unexpectedly your greatest strength as a couple keeps the bond and often gives you a reason to stay in the relationship.
However, there might be really no happy endings. In reality, those attributes you’ve loved from each another fades as time passes by. Those promises you’ve made might still be kept, but won’t happen the way you expected it to be. And as the saying goes by, “We all are different from one another” and somehow, you just can’t find the reason how did you end up being with a person who’s totally unlike you?
Well, this article might help you understand each other more. We may really have different qualities and personalities but if we know how the others usually see things on their perspective, it might help us to be a more understanding partner.
– SOLVING PROBLEMS –
HIS: He would probably want to solve things quietly. May it be his personal problem with his partner or other matters that could also cause the conflict in the relationship. He would rather focus on other important things than keep being suppressed by the problem. Solving a problem shouldn’t affect the relationship for him.
HERS: She wants to be free from the problem as soon as possible and in order to do that, you have to talk about it and solve it immediately. She won’t stop talking and thinking about it until it’s completely done. It might be a conflict in your relationship if you won’t attend to the problem like how she does.
– COMMUNICATION –
HIS: Once you’ve talked about it, That’s it! No confirmation needed or repetitive reminders. Especially if it is from a person that he really cares about, he always remember the details. It was also common for men to talk using “common sense” not everything needs to be broadcasted or tackled.
HERS: On the other hand, she wants to speak out everything in her mind and she wants to talk about everything or anything. Communicating means knowing what happened within the day and what will be your plans together in the future. But take note, that there are times where women doesn’t want to tell it directly but you have to know what exactly is in her mind.
– EVERYDAY LIFE –
HIS: He’s mostly focused on what’s happening right now. Serving his purpose is surely a great deal but at the same time, he wants to live the way life should be lived by. He surely wants to be a great provider and pressuring him won’t give any help. He also needs to breathe and enjoy his own space.
HERS: She simply want to have great mornings and peaceful evenings with her partner. She would also do her best to make sure that her partner is satisfied with his everyday life with her. Though being together everyday is a special thing, she would want to feel those special days even if you have the same routine everyday.
– RELATIONSHIP –
HIS: Relationship means commitment to him. Once you decided to be together it means conquering the waves and thunder together for him. He might look so confident for now that he sometimes look more focused in some things but he, for sure also aims to prepare a future with you. He’s more comfortable in your relationship that it doesn’t need to be sparkling all the time and being with you is everything to him. He’s also not into unnecessary gestures because he is more practical now more than ever.
HERS: She is fully aware that relationship has its ups and downs. However, her emotions were really important for her too. She would always go back to how you’ve started when she is happy or sad. She’ll always remember those happy memories you’ve shared together and all the efforts you did to get her and it might give her reasons to understand you better and give the relationship more chances. Those memories might also prove that you’ve changed a lot and you were no longer the man who pursued her a long time ago. But still, she loves you and she’s still willing to be in the relationship for sure. She might just want to send a message that she wants to bring back the spark in the relationship.
No matter how you look in each situation, what’s important is that you respect each other’s views and understand where he / she is coming from. Give and take is the key. A healthy and happy relationship takes a lot of experimentation too, knowing your own strength and weaknesses, accepting your flaws and mistakes would benefit both you and your partner. Remember, loving means understanding, trusting, respecting and compromising with each other.
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